Women’s Sexual Health Interview
Women’s Sexual Health Interview
A Women’s Sexual Health Program has been launched in Australia to help
women who experience sexual dysfunction issues because a recent study
revealed nearly half of all sexually active women in Australia never, or
rarely, achieve orgasm during sex, and 63% of women are in fact ‘faking’
orgasms with their partners.
We spoke with Dr. Chris Fenton, one of the Advanced Medical Institutes
(AMI’s) leading doctors working on the Sexual Health Program and Olivia
DeVere one of the Sex Education Correspondents also known as Lady ‘O’.
Interview Women's Sexual Health - Dr Chris Fenton & Olivia DeVere
Explain the Women’s Sexual Health Program?
Dr. Chris Fenton : There is an issue, with women in regards
to sexual activity, there are an awful lot of women who have never
climaxed in their life and also a lot of women who are having great
difficulty climaxing either through self-stimulation or through sexual
activity with their partner. Then there are an awful lot of women who
have lost desire, who don’t want to have lost desire, if you are
completely at peace with having no desire that’s fine, but one of the
definition of loss of desire means it is causing a person to stress. We
have these situations which sometimes they are single, who still would
like to have a return of being a women, feeling like a women and having
a sexuality and be able to climax and release. Then there are many, many
women in relationships who are distressed by the fact that they feel
their relationship is fine, they feel very warmly towards their partner
but they have no interest in sex anymore and they get no pleasure from
sex anymore.
In the past we have had many good approaches to
this problem, they can go so far, but we believe that the biological
component of this issue is very profound, there is an awful lot of
science to back this up. What we are doing is trying to return libido to
these women through biological means and we are also trying to return
arousal and the ability to receive clitoral stimulation and increase
sensitivity to a point so that women can climax. We are having enormous
success and although the science is well known and clinical trials have
been done, overseas, we are really not aware of anybody on a large scale
who is really clinically treating women in the way that we are.
How do you operate?
Olivia DeVere : Hundreds of women are calling us every week
and they speak to one of the doctors assistances and they often fill in
an assessment sheet, that way we can direct their call. Females speak to
female clients, we ask them things like; how their relationship is,
whether or not they self-stimulate, how often or if they have ever
orgasmed in their life. These questions are asked very calmly because
often the women are quite distressed, we then have an understanding of
how to assess this client. From there they go on to speak with a
registered AMI Doctor and assesses, the situation is assess from there.
What is the Sexual Health Program?
Dr. Chris Fenton : There is a sexual health program and that
includes the medical side. There are two things we are treating, the
first is the loss of desire, the way we treat that is with a spray. The
spray goes through the blood and there are receptors for this both in
the genital region and most importantly in the brain. In the brain it
causes a release that brings back a desire for a lot of things, brings
back a desire for life almost and a desire for sex. Women will begin to
feel desire, desire is defined as such as presence of sexual thoughts or
sexual fantasies. Those things begin to spontaneously come back and the
other thing is it prevents the release of prolactin.
One of the
interesting thing about women that ring us, many, many of them have lost
their libido completely after having children. When you give birth
prolactin is released to cause milk to engorge the breast. Prolactin is
also released after a women has an orgasm, which causes that retraction
period where you don’t really feel like sex at all. If after a long
period of breast feeding or after the release of prolactin many women
experience a state where prolactin, the hormone, just hangs around,
really the libido is just gone. The spray then raises levels in the
brain and then it goes through the body and causes the prolactin levels
to fall.
We ask women to use the spray every day in the evening
and over a steadily period of time women will feel a return of desire.
There is also a gel, the gel contains three prescription
pharmaceuticals and when you apply them it greatly increases circulation
and lubrication to the area and most importantly it brings on a clitoral
erection. It is clearly demonstrated that a soft clitoris, just like a
soft penis is almost unable to be stimulated and you certainly can not
climax with a soft penis, same as a soft clitoris. When you bring on a
clitoris erection you receive a sensation and it is possible to
stimulate the clitoris to achieve an orgasm. The three pharmaceuticals
have been put into a gel that directly work with the tissue of the
clitoris. It is very effective, it can work in two minutes, she can feel
her clitoris swelling and getting firmer. A women who has lost her
sexual desire can feel aroused by this and she can reach a stimulation
that results in a climax.
As an example about a third of the
women who ring us have never orgasmed in their lives, many of those go
onto climax every time.
Where you surprised by the results, that 63% of women are in fact
‘faking’ orgasms?
Olivia DeVere : I was astounded that I would listen to
hundreds of women and I was astounded with the problems they had. They
had been in a relationship for twelve years and may not have ever had an
orgasm or only had them when they were younger. Some younger girls
wanted to have multiple orgasms, which with the clitoris gel is actually
achievable, which is groundbreaking technology. What we also do is
support these women by putting them on a program. This is going across
women from 18 to women in their 80’s and it is a common problem coming
up. We are trying to bridge that taboo in society, it is a sexual health
issue.
Why do women ‘fake-it’?
Dr. Chris Fenton : Because there is an enormous pressure, a
women gets a clear knowledge that a man wants to be a success sexually,
he really wants his partner to be enjoying it. Once he becomes aware
that he is climaxing and she is never, or rarely climaxing he starts to
feel like he is imposing himself on the women. The women don’t want him
to feel bad, because that ends up causing all types of tension in the
relationship so they ‘fake it’.< br>
Explain the program?
Olivia DeVere : A program can run up to a year, involved in
that program is the medication we also give and encourage kegel
exercises and pelvic floor exercises. Also included is herbal
supplements and a DVD, booklet, a optional vibrator and ongoing
counseling and coaching for the women in the program. They can call and
talk to us about what is going on and their progress and motivation. We
coach them to achieve that sexual goal and maintain their sexual health.
Is it mostly women in relationships who use this program?
Olivia DeVere : Yes. A lot of them are in very happy
relationships, like they love their husbands and they want to make their
husbands happy, they just don’t have any desire and they want to get
that back. A healthy sex life will always roll into your personal life,
career, conversation, health and relationship. These women desperately
want it, particularly if they have lost it, if they have had it and no
longer have it. They may have had children, or they are tired and have
toddlers or if they have gone through menopause, they’ve had body
changing isssues; these are the types of women I speak to every day,
with these solid symptoms. The AMI program is a unique program, there is
nothing else out there like it. It also works.
Do singles use the program?
Dr. Chris Fenton : There are a lot of women who ring us that
are single and they really want their own sexuality back. Women are in
all sorts of relationships, they are in married relationships, they are
in de facto relationships they are in boyfriend relationships. There are
a disproportioned number of women who love women, who ring us. It is
interesting because we still ask “are you happy with your partner”, “do
you feel love towards your partner?” We ask these questions because if
there are relationship problems then we think medication isn’t the right
way to go but women may have lost their desire. There are many different
groups.
What is the average age of women in the program?
Dr. Chris Fenton : Fascinating. It is a really interesting
demographic. I think our oldest caller has been around 83 and our
youngest call, because we cannot take calls from anyone under 18, has
been 18 year olds. You are a little cautions with really young people
but of course there are some pretty sexually aware and active younger
people. It is interesting from memory the group that don’t call are
those girls in their 30 to 40’s. We have had success with a very high
proportion of those that ring. It is a really interesting thing about
those who receive a response and those that don’t. Women in their 30’s
are at a peak busy time of their life, they have so little time to think
about anything, they probably don’t have time to make the phone call to
us.
20 year olds, being generation Y are pretty assertive in
regards to if their sex life is satisfactory or if it’s not. If it is
not they are going to take action to make it so, they are an interesting
group and they are on the front foot of the program.
Apart from that one low decade every other decade is represented about
equally in the course. The thing is the stress that the callers describe
is really quite profound because of the relationship issues, the
consequences on your relationship that really matters. People feel like
life has sort of gone half dead for them, it is a bit the same with
men’s sexual dysfunctions, they used to be thought of as entirely
psychological and advice was given. It has been clearly demonstrated
over a number of years that it was psychologically but physiological.
The treatments for men are enormously effective in helping in getting
and maintain stronger erections and helping with premature ejaculation.
A women is complex, she doesn’t have an obvious sign like a
man. A guy feels clearly aroused. The desire and arousal for women is a
harder thing to study, but there is absolutely no doubt that the biology
of prolactin are working and the women are demonstrating this by
themselves.
Olivia are you able to share with us one of the stories of the women
from the program?
Olivia DeVere : There is a 33 year old lady, Abby, she was
calling in, a very intelligent woman who had just had her third child
and she had just broken up with her husband and she was feeling very
low. She started on the program because she had absolutely no libido, no
desire to have sex and she wasn’t self-stimulating and it had been going
on for six or seven years and she was only 33, very young. Abby got on
the program and received reasonably quick results, within the third of
four week she began orgasming and made her own time. She has now
returned to be with her husband because she got in touch with her own
sexuality and sexual identify made her feel so much better about
herself, she couldn’t even deal with her husbands problems or what she
wanted for her husband before she addressed her own sexual identity.
I have another story, a lady who is 53 and she has been married for 23
and hasn’t had an orgasm in 15 years, no joke. It is sad because she
loves her husband and they were growing apart because of it. After being
on the program for nine months she and her husband booked a second
honeymoon.
How often are results seen?
Dr. Chris Fenton : It is very variable. The gel is pretty
affective, we do increase from one squirt to two squirts over a period
of time depending on the response and some will have an orgasm for the
first time in a long time. Results are seen, sometimes they take longer.
With the loss of libido and sex drive, that takes longer because we have
to build up levels in the brain over time.
Olivia DeVere : I see it like going to the gym, you can go to
a couple of sessions and feel great but it takes time, it a long
program.
Are there any other common stories?
Dr. Chris Fenton : Another really common story with women in
regards to loss of libido have a recurring thing in their lives, every
time they have a new relationship in their lives they are really
interested in sex for a few months, then steadily it goes off until
about six months they have lost all sex drive again, it is because of
the new attraction. They don’t want it to happen because they value the
relationship. There are other women who know that every time they have
had a relationship in the past they know their lack of sex drive, or
interest, or pleasure in sex has eventually ended the relationship; so
they are single at the moment and they really want to get back into a
relationship and they don’t want it to happen again. They ring in the
hope they will get ready and right.
Dr. Chris Fenton: Dr Chris Fenton, M.B., B.S treats patients in
Advanced Medical Institute’s, Women’s program and devotes part of his
time to the Hospital of Hope, Timor Leste.
Olivia DeVere : is Advanced Medical Institute’s (AMI’s),
Women’s Sex Education Correspondent, also known as Lady ‘O’. Olivia has
extensive knowledge about the issue of sexual dysfunction as she talks
to women every day taking part in the program.
Brooke Hunter